#GOING TO BAR ALONE PLUS#

If you try to look upscale - make sure the cuffs of your sleeves don't come up to the 2nd knuckle of your finger - make sure the suit fits! Conservative can be contemporary. They were NOT going for quirky but Yuppie and it didn't work. Guy was wearing a navy suit with brass buttons - give it back to the ship boat captain and spend a little time at Kenneth Cole. The suits did not fit well and one was really out of style. Problem is this bar had very low number of women in it so those 3 all were trying their game on the same 2 ladies (hb8's). That made them stand out (kind of they were trying). College is starting up and I could tell they were not local.ДЄll 3 were wearing suits - no tie. (the more you pay attention to people the easier they are to spot) Later that evening I noticed some mistakes by 3 guys. I have immediately become the alpha in the bar to the AFC and to every woman there as I am someone the hot bartender wanted to see.ДЄFC came over and asked (loudly) who I was and if I had ever been there before - response 'First time I have ever been here' Put him in his place and raised my intrigue level with the other females there. She immediately breaks off and welcomes me and I go to immediate KINO (heavy) not so much to work her but to put the AFC's in their place.

I come in like that and people notice that I must be someone to get the bartender to move away from the group she/he was talking to and take care of me.ДЇor instance - last night I walk in - my bartender is between 2 AFC's and they are working her Night at the Roxberry style. I walk in and the bartender always makes a big deal about me being there (tipping well is easy way to get that kind of SPAM).

I have 1 bar I go to alone on a regular basis. That's what they are looking for - the alpha. The drawback is it's harder to make yourself stand out alone - to come in and 'be somebody'. Get in - hit the 3 second rule and get out.

#GOING TO BAR ALONE PLUS#

Plus it keeps you from deviating - you put yourself on an artificial timer. You are only going to be in the bar for 15-20 minutes and if they are going to engage you they HAVE to answer NOW. I would use the line of 'Popped in for a drink before I meet some mates later' No need to worry about them asking you where your friend is and it sets up a scarcity. but do go to bars because it's like boot camp and it will toughen you up. if you're not willing to go out to these night venues, you're only other options are: online dating, supermarkets (i can understand striking up a conversation with a nice chick while shopping, but to go there and pretend to shop in the hopes of picking up girls-i don't know-i feel like you're time may be better spent elsehwhere), and other hit or miss day spots, of course, if you live in the city, these day spots can be seriously worthwhile-in the suburbs not so much. you will attract what you're looking for. more often than not, they're acting like they have to drink/be slutty/act like a bimbo blah blah to be 'in' or whatever. if anyone thinks that's weird, call them on it. but the reality is, bars are where hot chicks are. Initially, i understand how someone might feel like they shouldn't be at a bar, especially if they have that fish out of water feeling. i know this sounds like easier said than done, but there are no shortcuts here. if you see yourself as the man, you are the man. if you let on that it's something that embarrasses you, or makes you uncomfortable-guess what? she will be embarrassed for you and feel uncomfortable around you. tell her that you're out alone tonight and say it with conviction. Who cares what she thinks about you being out alone, dude. Should I try going to the bars alone anyway or try to get rid of my anxiety first by going to parks and bookstores? Is it even a good idea to go to bars alone, or is it one of the areas where I'd need a wingman at all times?

I have no problem going to those places if I have another motive (working out at the gym, shopping, etc.), but even going to a park or a bookstore alone gives me uneasy feeling. I'm also afraid of going to social places by myself, especially places that I go to for sole purpose to meet people (like bars). The thing is, I don't know how awkward it would be to be alone at the bar trying to talk to sets. Do you guys go to bars/nightclubs alone or with others? It's easier to go with friends or better yet, a wingman, but I don't know anyone in the city yet who I'd actually be able to hang out with (aside from that girl I gamed over a week ago that I mentioned in my other thread, but I don't want to be clinging to her, besides I think she's mad at me now for too much neg-hitting).

Going to bar alone